E or two after reading this book the list will grow Either way keep reading my review Up until reading this book I don t think I completely understood the sheer amount of differing types of assholes that I am subjected to and surrounded by on a daily basis I applaud Aaron James for a well researched book on the subject of assholes The book does an impressive job of describing the ingredients of an asshole the different asshole styles that one might encounter and how we choose to respond to an assholeThe sole subject of this read is about the asshole the person who wrongly believes himself assholes are almost invariably male to be worthy of special treatment due to an entrenched sense of entitlement By definition the person who habitually speeds recklessly down the freeway creating chaos and havoc is an asshole But psychopaths like Hitler and Stalin are not assholes they meet some of the criteria but they brought far too much suffering on others to be mere assholes Broad description right Okay I ll go a step further Wondering if ou or someone who Het verhaal van Theodora Goodman you know is an asshole Without giving away the book think of the person who cuts lines because their time is valuable than others or of the inconsiderate idiot who takes a call while in the movie theater because that is important thanour enjoyment or the douche who would fire staff to meet earnings per share reuirements for their bonuses Get the picture And just when ou thought ou knew everything about the asshole my favorite chapter appeared Asshole Capitalism You have to read the book to know whyOutside of my personal enjoyment with reading the word asshole so many times in one book I found this to be a pleasurable read It will make me think logically about the kind of asshole I am listening to andor dealing with with the understanding that they will never change The only thing that can change is how I choose to deal with them Someone should however write a book on asshole management Hint hint Assholes A theory was published by Aaron James a Harvard educated philosopher and surfer in 2012I have to admit that when I picked up the book I was amused by the title and considered that it might be a one trick pony sort of like a Saturday Night Live skit stretched out into a book funny at the beginning and then petered out towards the endI was pleasantly surprised and than amused I was engrossed by the author s well thought out and intelligent ideasFirst James defines what it means to be an asshole His working definition In interpersonal or cooperative relations the asshole allows himself to enjoy special advantages and does so systematically does this out of an entrenched sense of entitlement and is immunized by his sense of entitlement against the complaints of other peopleThe author then goes on to describe various types of asshole such as the royal asshole the political asshole and the delusional asshole In humorous by not always unkind fashion James also goes on to list some examplesJames also distinguishes between the common asshole and those who suffer and by extension cause others to suffer due to mental illness psychopaths and narcissists and Blutstein (Öland-Quartett, your garden variety of jerks schmucks clowns and those who do not act out of a systematic character but who simply and temporarily act like an asshole In contrast to the anti social and maddening behavior of the asshole James introduces us to the anti asshole the cooperative person This person comprising the great majority of social humans is that person to whom standing patiently in a line or volunteering for the common good is juxtaposed and found at odds with the self centered and insensitive misanthropeFinally James helps us to cope with idea on asshole management and stoic acceptanceThe reviews on this book are mixed and I think I know why Most readers myself included will read the title and assume that this will be a riotous laugh out loud calling out of social ne er do wells This is instead a philosophic and astute essay on those people in polite society who drive the rest of us insane uoting Hobbes Rousseau Hegel Gandhi and Jesus James gives us a scholarly approach to an age old and ever increasing problem 2018 The great thing about this book is that I still think about it often as I am out and about And it has become a guide to dealing with these people that we find everywhere Most interestingly this book has helped me to not be as judgmental and universal in my occasional scorn Rather than saying that person is an asshole I freuently assign the term acting like an asshole for a presumed momentary lapse in civility The most common display is of course they re driving like an asshole I should have listened to my Goodreads friend Jon who told me that this book was not nearly as funny or entertaining as it promised to beIt is difficult at times to tell if Assholes is a parody of dry prolix academic treatises or just a treatise about assholes written in a dry prolix academic style The final result is much the same I won t deny there are a few worthwhile pages here the definition of asshole for example is a precise one that articulates the distinction between boor asshole and psychopath but there is lots and lots of padding here I suspect it would have made an amusing magazine article but there is just not enough here for a bookThe principal reason I kept reading this book was that I hoped it would turn out to be like Harry G Frankfurt s incisive and instructive On Bullshit which I read a fewears ago and which was much shorter and to the point Do not make the same mistake I made Assholes never rises to the level of Bullshit. Ople seem part of the human social condition especially in an age of raging narcissism and unbridled capitalism These concepts are also practically useful as understanding the asshole we are stuck with helps us think constructively about how to handle problems he and they are mostly all men presents We get a better sense of when the asshole is best resisted and when he is best ignored a better sense of what is and what is not worth fighting fo.
Person is To be an asshole is to exhibit such behavior consistently over a long period of time and James feels that if Chains of Gold you are willing to callourself an asshole this indicates that The Sorceress you are not in fact one James points out that assholes are not particularly difficult to spot however he does argue that public figures are often misrepresented in the media so readers need to be cautious about labels And then to my delight he went on to name names Who is on the list Rush Limbaugh Michael Moore HL Mencken Ann Coulterikes a female kudos Ann Richard Dawkins General George Patton John Edwards Ralph Nader Rahm Emanuel Douglas MacArthur Julian Assange Donald Trump Dick Chaney and a host of others In dealing with the aggressive behavior of assholes James warns readers to pick Pleasure and Pain your battles selectively resist when the issue is important toou and don t expect the behavior of the asshole to change Good advice I would have given this book 4 stars but the chapter on asshole capitalism dragged on and on to the point that I began to suspect that he was summarizing a graduate school paper or perhaps a portion of his dissertation Or maybe I m just being an asshole Whew I am so glad I finally finished this book With the title it has and with its small size and large print this book should have taken me a couple hours But because it was so boring it took me four days insteadI was looking for funny and useful suggestions for dealing with assholes and instead I got a boring academic discussion on the various aspects of assholery Chapters on asshole management which should have been fun to read were dull and tedious At times this guy s assessment of public figures who were also assholes seemed to be shall we say slightly influenced by politics The worst part of it was that he brought philosophers into the discussion of assholes No thank The Mountain and the Valley you I could not bring myself to one star this book because the author who has Ivy League affiliations can certainly write well enough He just needs another PhD in being interesting in my opinion While the title might mislead prospective readers to assume that Assholes A Theory offers either a lighthearted assortment of anti assholeet thoroughly assholish uips or an amoral guidebook in the manner of Machiavelli s The Prince what this book really delivers is a complete account of the psychology morality and social bearing of the common asshole James is a serious philosopher and Assholes is a serious piece of ethics James handles the asshole phenomenon from every angle The asshole as he defines it is someone who systematically allows himself special advantages in his relations with others out of an entrenched sense on entitlement that leaves him inoculated against the legitimate complaints of others It is that very failure to acknowledge others as moral euals that makes them so frustrating to others Yet even when we do fight back assholes come euipped with a set of defenses that leave them invulnerable to capitulation If assholes are left unchecked or worse if they are encouraged by society then it can create a host of interpersonal and societal problems some of which may spiral into ever worse social outcomes As a philosopher James is uite careful about every facet of his argument drawing on such great ethicists as Plato Kant Rousseau and Hobbes to deploy his message The asshole may in fact be a given and inescapable part of life Zero Option (Geordie Sharp, yet to the extent that we can we should strive to support a society that discourages assholes and encourages cooperation I m glad I went into this with eyes wide opened as to the widespread prevalence and ubiuitous presence of assholesI mean honestly we all know one or two or sometimes a full office full of them And even if we don t have many real life line cutters traffic weavers or conversation killers in our lives at least we have Trump And high level bankers And Rush And practically the entire existing vocal portion of the political process in America We have lots and lots and lots of good examplesWhat didn t really have was a comprehensive attempt to define and refine all the aspects about what truly makes up an Asshole Enter this book The extremely nerdy logical euivalent of a loud fart Not humorous in the way most of us like fart jokes mindou It s just so nerdy it still had me chuckling the entire timeAssholes are people with entrenched senses of entitlementPretty easy They will sometimes give Rescued (The Missing, you long winded reasons why they do asshole things giving lip service to the basic moral euivalency of cooperation and knowing that we re all in the same boat but they still go ahead and pull an asshole move anyway Assholes can be that person who always complains to the management when his McD fries aren t fresh enough They re also the people who perpetuate the idea of the Noblese making sureou know that Summary you deserve so much while taking the lion s share of everything They are the people that we wish we could curtail with laws and restrictions and sanctions but because the things they re doing are socially reprehensible and not precisely unlawful we all just look on in disgust as they get away with itFun stuff I most appreciated the sociological ramifications and possible means to put assholes in their place Totally recommend dude Especially for surfers I must admit that this is another book that caught my eye simply due to the title Be warned it is what it appears to be a book about assholes so the title can be taken literally Ifou are an asshole or have ever been called one to The Janitor (The Contenders, your face or behindour back ou may or may not be ready for this book For those who know an asshol. Whom there is no better name Try as we might to avoid them assholes are found everywhere and in multiple iterations smug assholes royal assholes the presidential asshole corporate assholes reckless assholes The list goes onAsshole management begins with asshole understanding Much as Machiavelli illuminated political strategy for princes this book finally gives us the concepts to think or say why assholes disturb us so and explains why such pe.
I ve decided to re shelve this I know it is me not the author but for reasons I do not understand I just can t seem to focus on this book I m going to pick it up again in the fall when my own mind is a bit uieter72616 I saw this book opened up This was very much a book by a writer who s fairly sure he s funny It s actually pretty dryThe opening chapters developing a taxonomy of assholes are occasionally amusing I blew air out of my nose slightly harder than normal a few times I think I smirked once or twice His general conception of the asshole is one who against all logic and reason considers themselves entitled to than everyone else Let me cut in let me have that parking space let me have control over the board don t ou know who I amProf James then considers the impact that assholes can have on individuals on groups and if a certain critical mass is achieved on nation states In general he states without sufficient resistance from non assholes in which we include the allied species of jerks and schmucks who unlike the asshole don t consider themselves entitled to than they deserve and thus are likely to get their backs up when they see someone else horning in on their stuff the assholes take over and that s why we can t have nice thingsHis proof for this comes in a roundabout way from game theory at some point the cost of contribution to a shared outcome results in a net loss if too many are withdrawing but not contributing His algebra s not great but the point is validHe then examines the impact that conglomerations of assholes can have on capitalism and market economies If the assholes are obsessed with taking than their share and are given positive reinforcement for their assholism eg bankers following the GFC claiming that they deserved their multimillion dollar bonuses because clearly they deserve it because they re so very smart Lamore tra i polli you can tell they re so smart and deserve their bonuses because otherwise they wouldn t be getting their bonuses then the market economy is no longer achieving its raison d etre that is to use the collective savings of a nation to improve the uality of life for all via un or semi directed investment If all the money s going to nonproductive industries and I use the term loosely then the rest of us are left with two thirds of fuck all courtesy of the assholesOK that became a bit of a diatribe Overall the book is ok his points are valid and his arguments are well reasoned The author s not a sparkling wit so it can be a bit dry at times 25 starsThe description of this book is a bit misleading I was expecting a lighteret informative read There were some moments where I enjoyed it and chuckled uite a bit but I wish there was material to relate to for myself I liked the descriptions of the types of assholes While reading it I found myself thinking of all of the ones in my life appropriately categorizing them along the way The book would break off into a lot of lengthy political tangents which I didn t really care about I know politicians are assholes I don t need a rehash of the history about it I don t care to categorize what kind of assholes they are I just care about the ones in my everyday lifeand celebs I wanted definitive guidance as to what would be the best course of action to deal with them What s written is common sense or at least it suggests for The Indispensable Faulkner you to use it I also wasn t a fan of the nature vs nurture argument and how culture cultivates assholes There were too many swee Should I be concerned that one of my favorite staff members at my local library grabbed me and said Judy we just got in a book that I thinkou should read Fingers crossed that she wasn t making a value judgment or statement I think that she thought I would be interested And I was Aaron James received his PhD from Harvard and is a professor of philosophy at the University of California Irvine and he takes a philosophical approach in dealing with the subject of assholes James points out that assholes can be found anywhere in history in public life in entertainment in our workplaces in our religious groups in our circle of friends and acuaintances in those we randomly meet on a daily basis and unfortunately sometimes in our families James feels that an asshole is not just a deeply bothersome person but is a person who is bothersome enough to trigger strong feelings of powerlessness fear or rage in others While there are many people that I have been known to mutter asshole when out of their hearing James cautions that a true asshole demonstrates three characteristics 1 He allows himself to feel entitled to enjoy certain advantages in daily life on a regular basis 2 He does this out of a strong and deeply held sense of entitlement and 3 He is unable to understand why other people complain about his attitudes and behavior The asshole believes that he is special and the rules of conduct that govern others do not apply to him Oh Pack Up the Moon yes I know these people James uses the pronoun he in talking about assholes because while he recognizes that women can indeed be assholes he feels that the vast majority of assholes are men and concludes that this is culturally based In arguing that assholes are made and not born James feels that culture is such a strong indicator that a newborn baby boy in the United States Italy or Israel is much likely to live the life of an asshole than a newborn baby boy in Japan or Norway or Canada James cautions that everyone no doubt acts like an asshole in certain situations or over a short period of time a day a couple of days a week because of the stresses of daily life but that doesn t mean the. The perfect graduation gift for everyoung adult entering the real world In the New York Times bestseller Nick Hornby calls helpful stimulating and very timely The Believer philosopher Aaron James presents a theory of the asshole that is both intellectually provocative and existentially necessary What does it mean for someone to be an asshole The answer is not obvious despite the fact that we are often personally stuck dealing with people for.